biblical womanhood

God’s design: The role of women in the family

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ore women need to be a part of the workforce, top business positions should be filled by more women, keep women out of the home, and in the workforce.” This is what the world chants and is very characteristic of today’s society. As women, we want to make it in the business/corporate world that has been, for centuries, dominated by men. We are told that we need equal jobs, equal pay, equal hours at work, and everything else that men have been entitled to for a long time.

Is there something wrong with women working? No. We are working beings, and both men and women are to work. Before I got married, I worked long hours in the corporate world, spent late nights in the office, and was a part of the world of quick turnarounds and long workhours. I was not married and had no dependents, I would arrive at home late at night, have a quick take-out dinner and then I was back to my laptop to work from home. Now, this wasn’t always the case each and every day, but the scenario I am painting is that of a lifestyle spent at work and on taking some ‘me-time’ away from work. Prayer and bible time were mornings and evenings and the rest of the day was jam-packed. Had I been married with children, my husband and I would only get to spend time as a family, for a lesser part of the day, with most of it spent out of the home. Our children would have spent most of the day in the care of someone other than their parents. I know that this is the case with many families in today’s society, but should we be spending time away from our family so much? Is that what a family is intended to be?

There are some who may have less than favorable circumstances to deal with, and I am not criticizing the single mom or dad that has to work more than one job to put food on the table. These situations are not ideal. The picture of an ideal family, as God intended is one in which both parents are teaching children the ways of the Lord, the commandments of the Lord, (Proverbs 2:6) night and day. Both parents together have a role in raising children to the glory of God and each parent individually has their role as mother and as father. The words of the Lord in Deuteronomy 6: 6-9 spell it out quite clearly:


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Children are to be taught, 24/7, the commandments of the Lord, from their parents. “When you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up”. Whether you eat or you drink, or whatever you may do, do it all to the glory of God (1 Cor. 10:31). How best to teach children in this way, than to spend most of our time with them? God commands:

  • Men to love their wives, lead their wives and children as the head of the household under Christ (Eph 5:23, 1 Cor 11:3), to provide for the household (1 Tim 5:8), to train and discipline children (Eph 6:4, Prov 15:5).
  • Women to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord (Eph 5:22, 24, Col 3:18) manage the home (Prov 14:1, 31:27, 1 Tim 5:13-14,Titus 2:5) teach their children( Prov 22:6) and younger women (Titus 2:3), train and discipline children under the authority of her husband.
  • Children to honour and obey their parents as unto the Lord. (Col 3:20, Exodus 20:12)

The Lord our God has given us roles within and for the family, which is the bedrock of society.

One thought that I always have when reading in the news, about the atrocities that are taking place in this world, is that those who commit such heinous crimes were once sweet little babies who have/had a mother and a father. Yes, some may have been victims of circumstances such as an absent parent or many may have been orphaned, but the fact remains, that a man and a woman came together to bring forth a child. A child, who, no matter what the circumstances, is a blessing for the Lord. The parents and children, no matter what the circumstances, have a biblical mandate as male and female, mother and father, as children.

The very fabric of society as God intended, has been marred by sin and torn apart at the seams as we try to find all kinds of solutions, work harder, have better schools, have better nannies and daycare centers. It’s a never-ending spiral that we will forever be caught up in, because we cannot find solutions to societies’ problems in this world. Children will grow up to be the robbers, lairs, cheaters, swindlers and killers we see and read about in the news, unless they are raised by Godly parents who are obedient to God’s word. No, not all children will grow up to be killers, they may be good children and grow up to be great adults, but good children and great adults are still accountable to God when they die.(Ecclesiastes 12:14)

All are doomed, unless we believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and are saved, unless we repent of our sins and turn to Christ who is the author of our salvation. Only through Christ are we saved, and by the power of the Holy Spirit, are able to see sin for what it is and look to Christ. Only through Him are we justified and sanctified to live our lives in obedience to Him. He created us, he created families, and if we are to have Godly families our eyes should be fixed upon Him. There is no other way to be obedient to His commands.

I left the corporate world that I knew I wouldn’t be a part of for a long time. At the right time, the Lord provided a loving, God-fearing husband who had the same convictions as I did, regarding family and raising children to the glory of God. I now work from, in and for the home, which is the sphere/launching pad that God has given to me. What a blessing it has been to submit to the Lord and honor Him and his commands; to learn at His feet, about how to raise a family for the furtherance of His Kingdom; to teach my child the ways of the Lord and make the home a haven for my family and guests within our gates. Without the Lord Jesus Christ, it isn’t possible. All Glory and honour be unto Him.


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