The virtue of trust
[eltdf_dropcaps type=”normal” color=”” background_color=””]This[/eltdf_dropcaps] in all honesty, describes one of the virtues evident in my Katryn Kombe: TRUST. The biblical specimen of Prov. 31v11 – “The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain (NAS)” affirms this. Trust is depicted in most relationships, as a rare attribute. On it fruitful marriages are built. Without it, marriages suffer and crumble. Trust and its authenticity underlie fidelity. Hence building and strengthening the muscle of trust is worth an engagement for its unhindered attainment. Trust must be nurtured unto growth so as to bear the fruit of joy in marriage.
Pondering of this and seeing this lived out in my wife, delights my heart. Beholding my wife given striving to grow in this area of grace is fulfilling. Her godly character is a constant reminder and a reflection of what an excellent wife looks like.
Three implied principles are reflective of her as gleaned from Prov. 31 v 11:
My wife is devoted to loving God and His word. And I daily learn from her. Her loving devotion toward our daughter and to me, is matchless. Her devoting of time, strength, wifely duties and all other crucible intricacies toward me, the man of clay in whom nothing good resides, cannot go unnoticed. Her devotion to care for and cherish our relationship, her willingness to accept me for who I am –and not for what I am and have–, is worth noting. I trust her because she is an open book for all to see and know precisely the divine dealing of God with her. She is so transparent that when she is down cast or even rejoicing, she remains a woman ever yielding to God’s divine providence, a woman willing to be helped and guided where possible. She, in this way, makes my duty as a husband to love, lead and guide her, quite rewarding.
This describes my wife’s unfeigned love toward me. Albert Martin’s lectures, “Love”, define love as “…that gracious and principled disposition of good will, which desires and practically seeks the good of its object even at its personal cost” (Pastoral Theology, cultivating love for men part 1) – I Corinthians. 13v4 – 8b. It is in this definition that I see an affirmative reality definitive of my wife.
Regarding her unhampered sacrifice and selflessness: my wife left the earthly comforts of the USA, willingly leaving in response to the Lord’s call to missions. She has settled in the most contrasting conditions as compared to her place of birth and upbringing. Her sacrifice and selflessness is praiseworthy. My heart trusts her in all things for she seeks scripture to govern her, against all odds.
When I look at my wife, I see an exemplified reality of I Cor. 13v4 – 8a, Eph. 5v22 & v24 & v33b-, I Pet 3v1 – 6. And I foresee the fruitful principle of a mature woman reflective of Titus 2v3 – 5. Already she emits so well much growth in grace and knowledge of Christ. And not only will she be exemplary to the younger women who will in turn praise her, but our children and I –her husband–, will praise her, for she will be a mother of the faithful.
She is priceless and valued beyond costly jewels. I am daily indebted to God for His gracious gift of giving her to me.
“The Selfish and ungodly persons everywhere enter into all kinds of relationships with a desire of serving their own selves, and gratifying their own flesh without knowing or caring what is required of them. Their desire is for the honor, profit, or pleasure their relationship will provide them but not for what God and man requires or expects from them. [Gen 2:18, Prov. 18:22] Their mind is concerned only with what they shall have and not for what they shall be and do.” Richard Baxter.
Sydney B. Kombe
Richard Baxter, The Mutual duties of husbands and wives towards each other, 1615-1691, http://www.puritansermons.com/